Thanks for your input Helen. I am coming to the same conclusion, if my first marriage ended badly in divorce many many years ago back in 1987 to have recently found my first true love, less than 3 years ago, and have helped her to find salvation through going to and being baptized into Christ how can my divorcing her be the right and only thing to do. If as we are told that we are living in adultery can't God forgive us without man (The Church) tearing us apart?