Dear Neil, If one divorce was bad two can only be worse.My husband and I were in a not unsimilar situation,no need to go into any detail yet but if necessary would explain further.
The Lord knows the situation now and he will make everything clear to you.
His Word is a light to our feet.Lay it all before Him and wait.In quietness and confidence shall be your strenghth.You may have to take a back seat for some time but no need to run away.You will take the burden with you.As for the instruments they must realy get you down when you are already so heavy laden,but this seems to me just to be put in your path as a distraction from the real problem.
Helen